Advice U Seek -
With Psychic Counselor
Sharyn LeMasurier

February 2009

Dear Sharyn,

I am in a pursuit of my spiritual life and happiness. Recently, I have been thinking of why we are here, why some people are not privileged at all and some people are very privileged in this world. Just a few days ago for the first time I came across the Violet Ray magazine, and I read your responses to some of the questions people had. I have a lot of questions about my life and life in general but I just ask two of the questions that have made my mind very busy.

With all the things that have happened in the world and crime in my city I am very concerned and worried about the safety of my family and friends. Every single day I am thinking that I don't want to see anybody close to me severely ill or harmed. It seems that I don't have any control over things and I am always worried about that. How can I make sure that bad things do not happen to my friends, family and myself? Thanks

~ Shar M. ~

Hi Shar,

Thanks for the questions. You will notice I am only responding here to one of them, and will attempt to respond to the other by personal email to you directly.

We all worry at times about those around us, hoping they will not have to suffer misfortune. It is human nature to want those around you to do well, be well and be happy. The truth about life though is that we all must walk our own walk in our lives. That means that we have no control over the plight or fate of others, we only have control over our lives and ourselves. We are certainly able to stand in support of a friend or relative who is struggling, and we can love them completely. We just can't fix all the things that may be going wrong for them. This has a lot to do with Universal Laws that guide and direct us in our human journey on earth. Let me share an example with you of a client I had and his story. I will call him Pete (not his real name).

Pete used to come to me for regular reflexology sessions. He was around age 60, overweight and diagnosed diabetic, which he handled through diet and pills. He was concerned it wouldn't be long before he would be on injections. In our reflex sessions we would also chat and Pete made several references to his son. He would comment that he had to send his son money because his truck broke down. The next time he sent him money because he couldn't pay his rent, another time it was because he had lost his job. This went on for several months until one day I asked Pete, "How old is your son?" He replied, "He is thirty-one." I asked, "How long has he had trouble dealing with money?" "Oh," Pete replied, "since he was seventeen he was never good with money."

I could see this was draining Pete, both emotionally and financially and made a suggestion. It was also affecting his health and his self-esteem, as he felt responsible for his son. I suggested that if he had allowed his son to experience poverty at seventeen, perhaps he would have learned to deal better with money at the age of thirtyone. Pete was shocked, and replied," but I am his father and it is my job to see that he is okay." When I was able to get Pete to see how he had enabled his son to continue towards a course of poverty by bailing him out all the time, the lights went on for him. He stopped trying to fix everything for his son, and he loved him more than ever. He allowed him to stand on his own so he could make different choices and his son, after some mistakes; quickly learned how to look after his own monetary needs. As for Pete? He quit a job that was making him unhappy, moved to a new community to be closer to friends, joined a weight loss program and is no longer diabetic. He is also living closer to his son, who now has a beautiful wife and baby girl and is doing great.

We have an obligation to our lives and we have control over our lives - we cannot control the lives of others because our lives and their lives are the result of the choices that have been made by each of us. So Shar, as hard as it seems sometimes, allow yourself to stand back and watch with love the actions of those you love. Advice is great, but only if offered with no expectation and allow each of those and yourself the opportunity to grow through the choices you and they make. You will discover more strength within yourself as well as recognize the strength of others. It is your life - their life is theirs. Love it and live it the best way you can for yourself.

Sharyn LeMasurier is a psychic counselor and medium and the owner of The Studio Holistic Health Centre in Red Deer. She utilizes her psychic gifts to assist clients in resolving current issues to enable them to influence their own future in a positive way. For more information on Sharyn visit www.thestudiohhc.com.

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