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May, June, July 2010

Over the past few weeks my 28 month old daughter started to feel scared and cry a lot when I am putting her to sleep at night. She has a night light now which seemed to help. It looks to me like she is scared of being alone, what can we do to make her feel safe?

~ Elena S., Calgary, Alberta ~

Your story is a common one. Young children have many irrational fears such as being scared of the dark, being alone, or separation from a parent. Usually reassurance over a period of time will relieve her of her anxiety of being without you and being in the dark at the same time. Children three and under are also like little psychics, they don't know that they are not supposed to see "those people", so they do all the time. Pets also hear and see things we don't. In my experience, when children do see "those people", they are not frightened; they cannot tell the difference between seeing a physical person or a person in spirit. It is never the intention of a loved one in spirit to physically manifest to scare or harm someone. I feel that your daughter is just uncertain about being apart from you, and with all your loving reassurance, this should pass in time. If a child is seeing a "grandmother" in spirit this usually starts to fade after the age of three.

My husband and I were married on February 14th, 2009 and he passed away September 15th 2009. We were newlyweds in our 50's and I miss him terribly, he was my soul mate. Why can I not see him or why can he not visit me? I so long to talk with him. Is this possible?

~ Anna K., Edmonton, Alberta ~

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that there is some comfort in knowing that your husband spent his remaining days with you, the person who loved him completely, inside and out, backwards and forwards. Your husband is with you all the time. There is nowhere else for him to be. It's not that we are "here" and he is somewhere else, we are all here, just operating at different vibrations. We really do not die, we just change form. We are all made from the same matter, energy. Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only change form. The same is true when we conceive a child; that soul has just changed to physical form, in death, we just change back. As for seeing him with your physical eyes, that is rare, but possible. He would have to lower his vibration for you to see him. When this happens, it is usually fleeting, because it takes a lot for them to do this. Ask for him to visit you in a dream, (which I feel that he already has) as this seems to be easier for the soul to do. Watch for any thought, event, song etc. that makes you stop and think of him...because it is him. When you really "get it", that he is always close, you can stop looking for him, and the signs and signals tend to come to us easy and often.

For about 6 years, I have been consciously aware of white (sometimes other coloured) feathers surrounding me. I have always felt that this was a message or reminder for something, but I am not sure exactly what? Please share your thoughts on this.

~ Louanne B., Red Deer, Alberta ~

Great question! Yes, I believe that this is the way your loved ones, in spirit form, are making a connection with you. When you are feeling alone, or missing a passed loved one, this is how they are letting you know that they are close. "They" can see us but we cannot see them, so this is their way of letting you know that you are never alone. Souls try to reach us in many forms such as songs, thoughts (especially reoccurring thoughts) and smells etc. Anything that makes you stop and think about someone who has passed, means it is them. I do sense that there was a child lost early, connected to you, that often sends the feathers. When you see a feather, relax your mind (actually, empty your thoughts) and you will receive a thought from a loved one telling you that it is them. There is also a strong "father” feeling that is with you often. So when you see a feather give thanks for the connection and they will surely continue.

I sometimes feel that it is not right for me to ask the spirit of my loved ones to visit me. Am I disturbing their peace? Am I bothering them?

~ Sue M., Moncton, New Brunswick ~

Awesome question! No you are not bothering or disturbing them. Anybody who has raised a teenager knows that you cannot make any soul do anything that they do not want to do. They love to connect with us! Thank goodness, or I would have to find another job. (hee..hee) Our loved ones are close by at all times, so if you are having a hard day, grieving or missing someone, just ask them for a sign that they are close, then release that thought and go about your day. Before long, something will happen to let you know that they heard you and will respond to your request. ASK and you will receive...always. Do not ask for them to flicker a candle or a light, you may be disappointed, just ask them to do what they can to make a connection with you and they will. Remember that our loved ones in spirit can still hear, hearing is vibrational, it is the first sense that comes to a newborn child and the last sense to leave our physical body. Ask a nurse that works in a hospice or in critical care, they always tell you to "talk to them, they can still hear you"....nurses know, they have seen it many times.

Kim Dennis is a proven clairvoyant medium who resides in Calgary. She is the author of the book What's Above?, a radio host on 1060 AM in Calgary, Thursday evenings at 7 p.m. and is currently producing a second television program. Her CD is also available on her website at www.clairvoyantkim.com.

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