Dear Dreamers,

You are the writer, producer, director and star of all your dreams. Only you can really interpret your dreams. The language of dreams is symbols, metaphors and emotions. As our minds are unconscious in dreams, your dream “creator” can only pull information stored in your brain (data base) and try to use this to give you a dream message.

In the dream below I try to give guidelines to what the dreams may mean. You must always ask yourself- what does the symbol, person, color, emotion etc. mean to me in my dreams?

Only you really know the answer and if what I say should resonate in a small or big way then you are on track to understanding what your symbols are meaning. The best way to learn how to understand your dream language is to keep a dream journal of each dream that does stand out for you and to keep digging to find meanings that resonate. My suggestions below are only my ideas and not meant to be replacing your own dream language or interpretations.

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February, March, April 2010

Dear Irene,

Dreams of a Deceased Loved One - Submitted by LCR

My mother passed away 21 years ago. Since her passing I've had fairly regular dreams about her. The recurring theme in my dreams is that she has moved away, and she has her own life. I'm always trying to get in touch with her but she is not interested because she has this new life - sometimes she is in a new job, new city, new relationship. Sometimes I'm looking in a phone book and I find her name and I think, "Oh! If only I had looked years ago, I could have just phoned her!" She and my father were married when she passed, but in my dreams she is often having an affair and she has no time for us. On the surface, it seems obvious to me that my dreams are loss issues, but I know they aren't sensible. The sadness I feel every time I have one of these dreams is profound!

Intellectually you are right about this dream being of loss issues, things not fully expressed such as grief. It is not only death that we mourn for but the end of the relationship and often not having closure.

On an emotional level there may be unresolved issues with her but all dreams are about the dreamer. What emotional state is happening in your own life each time these dreams occur?

• When the dreams show her in a new job, city etc. this could be what you are looking for; new beginnings of some kind.

• When you think you could have called her this could represents wanting to communicate with someone in your waking life or even trying to coordinate our own inner thoughts about our present and future.

• Her having an affair could be your desire for more love, deeper relationship and intimacy.

The sadness you may be feeling at the end of the dream is for yourself and what you may be feeling about loses/events that were happening in your waking life when these dreams appeared.

Next time the dreams return look at them from the perspective that it is about you and your current life issues. When we want to escape from our daily reality we put ourselves in a dream as someone else so we can either hide from issues or so the dream can stand out for us to see the issues. I hope this helps.

Dear Irene,

I keep having the same dreams (not sure if I'm dreaming it or am I only desiring it... like daydreaming) I dream about a man who has two children and we have an off ..on again relationship but we always seem to find each other together at the end. I cannot see his face just his body shape. I wonder if I am only dreaming this because I’m lonely and desire to find someone to fulfill my life. When I think of a past life I think, I see an empty, lonely, sad little girl with anger around me. Please help me.

~ Submitted by Joyce ~

Hi Joyce,

Recurring dreams carry important messages that we need to pay attention to. A recurring dream message is one that needs to be understood for it identifies issues, such as fears or desires that are unfulfilled. These types of dreams will keep recurring until we pay attention and identify the message.

Having dreams of a man/lover/soul mate/partner can be an indication that you are lacking intimacy in your life with a longing to end loneliness and find your illusive mate.

Children in the dream can signify your desire for a family or if you have two children it strengthens the dreams message for a complete family. Children also represent our youth with unfulfilled childhood dreams and desires. Adults will often desire a life of innocence like we once had and sometimes childhood fears such as being alone and afraid will still appear in our adult dreams.

What’s interesting in the dream is the “off and on again” and how you keep finding each other and come back together. This can represent patterns of your waking life with family, friends, job changes, restlessness, and being unsure about what you really desire. Who is that unknown shape/soul mate that you keep seeking? The dream can be expressing the pain in your heart, the desire for love and happiness and the fear that it will not be forever. On and off relationships could be your past history and an anxiety that it will keep “recurring” in your waking life as it does in the dream.

I have a free exercise on “How to Manifest the Perfect (Job) or Mate” that if you request via email, I will send you. The mate one has given me over 200 weddings invitations so I know it works well and it might be worth your while to try it. Let me know if doing this exercise helps the recurring dreams.

Sweet Dreams everyone!

Irene

Insightful and compassionate, Irene is a powerful spiritual counselor, author, speaker and teacher who shares her intuitive gifts and wisdom with a myriad of clients including professionals and non-professionals around the globe. Irene is the author of Dream Talk, Journey Beyond and a Self Discovery Journal

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