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Lessons of the Drum -
"Wake Up Call"
By Nadine Gordon

February 2009

My heart is my drum. Today, I sit within this beautiful sacred safe-place and feel its power. Regretfully, I realize I have spent too much time in my head this has thrown me off balance.

Sometimes, unbalanced demeanor happens when we are unable to detach ourselves from imagined problems or fool ourselves into thinking a problem isn't even ours. We conjure up pain, fall into negative behaviors and create drama that effects us badly because we fear true happiness, success and love then design tests for ourselves to see if our imagined idea of perfection is really that good. Perhaps, we don't trust that we are really worthy of all. What is all? I will face the northeast direction and invite the deer family into my heart to solve this dilemma.

Commercialism has taught us that all is having more than, or bigger and better than our neighbors. We strive selfishly ahead attempting to obtain more because we are afraid of how we'll be judged if we do not keep up with the rest of society. Society has also taught us that there must be a winner or a loser, it is either right or wrong and that it is all or nothing. Sharing is unheard of, and no gray area exists therefore apparently, it is never okay to be yourself or to be thankful for what you already have. Endless competition to one up our neighbors leaves us with empty lives devoid of intimate relationships and friendships even with ourselves. Our society has become solely about money but commercialism keeps us blind to our real needs by telling us that we are never good enough.

Commercialism hits us at our ego level. Our egos pummel us then strip us of our serenity. When we loose our peace of mind, we become enablers. We are unhappy.

Jealousy, anger, envy and gossip are hurtful attributes caused by unhappiness. These attributes enable rage. When rage is not contained, it becomes abuse. We as a society have become blind to abuse. We have been taught that emotions are weak. So, we turn a blind eye to those in pain. Fear keeps us from being involved so we pretend that it's okay for people in pain to display inappropriate behavior then never expect them to be responsible. We cover up for them by telling untruths and become weaker than they are. We volunteer to become victims when we allow bullies or those in our vicinity to intimidate us. Sometimes people in our families, our friends, or our leaders are the ones who use intimidating techniques. At other times a co-worker but unprofessional conduct or lack of integrity is never addressed because we fool ourselves into believing we are powerless. It is our ego's tendency to finally tell us that we have become too wounded to continue; therefore we may victimize ourselves some more through alcoholism, drug abuse or gambling. All have become acceptable norms in our society but since commercialism tells us that it's okay to numb ourselves this way, the negative cycle continues. We have become enablers because we believe what commercialism tells us. Money is all.

We have learned to believe those out there with more money have more power. Our perceptions of others clog reality to become our illusions. And, we have deluded ourselves into thinking money is power to such an extent that to gain more of it, we must be in a continual state of competition. You are either a winner or a loser. You are either right or wrong. There is no middle. You are rich or you are poor. Our society has sold out and at what cost? Is this all?

This is not all. Wake-up!

The deer family reminds us that the pain of others has an affect on us because it is confusing. We must learn to lovingly detach from others prior to solving our own emotional dilemmas.

It is part of the Universal plan to make mistakes but learn from them and strive not to hurt others because of your own pain. Use the northeast direction to design new energy. Treat others, as you would like to be treated and treat yourself the same way. Have the courage to speak up when injustice occurs. Become selfless not selfish; share. All is sharing.

We are all connected. We are all energy.

Remember: Love is given. Trust is earned. Knowledge is learning. Wisdom is doing. This is our wake-up call!

Nadine Gordon is dreamwalker and the founder of Nurturing ‘NerGy, a sanctuary for all those who wish to journey and heal. She loves to share by teaching others about their gifts. For additional information on Nadine please visit her website at : www.nurturingnergy.com

We invite you to send your questions to Nadine at nadine@thevioletray.ca

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