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When Positive Thinking Doesn't Work
By Alex T. Vanwells

I seem to hear this frequently. I have been changing my thoughts and feelings, however this Positive Thinking is just not working for me. The cynical among us are very quick to point out that just believing in something doesn't make it come true. Even the most Optimistic Being will concede that they don't always take Positive Action based on their thinking.

Why is that? Simply put, the reason positive thinking doesn't always work is because people's positive thoughts don't always go all the way to their belief system. Underneath their positive facade of positive thoughts, their real beliefs are literally pressed into their DNA at a cellular level. It’s what I refer to as the Jell-O press. Visualize a bowl of jell-o. From a very young age we are told things that others believe regarding the world rules eg. "Money doesn't grow on trees" (Jell-o press). "You have to work hard to get anywhere in Life" (Jell-o press). Every time one of these Limiting Beliefs is given to you, it’s like someone putting his or her thumbprint into your Jell-o. Pretty soon, your Jell-o (DNA) is filled with Limited Beliefs, whether you wanted them or not. One persistent negative thought is enough to disrupt the energy flow around a positive thought or affirmation.

Positive Thinking never achieved anything on it's own anyway. Positive Action is what you need, and you can't have that without Positive Thinking. But it's at the point of Positive Action that Positive Thinking starts to fail.

That's because the action exposes the negative belief. Taking action forces you to acknowledge your Limiting Beliefs. So Positive Thinking only becomes effective when you also get rid of all your conflicting beliefs around what you are asking for. You must erase the mark in your Jell-o in order to find balance between your positive thoughts and your Limited Beliefs.

This was the reason I was so extremely excited when EFT found me. I knew there was a missing link to the Secret.

Many of you are familiar with the game “Ker Plunk”. This raised an interesting phenomenon in my classes. Here's the Visual: The Sticks in the cylinder are your Limiting Beliefs. The Marbles represent your Desire (Asking, Wish). If you don't or can't remove your Sticks (Limiting Beliefs) then the marbles can't fall through. No matter how hard you look at the Limiting Beliefs, until you deal with them, they remain. Once you begin to identify the Limiting Beliefs and tap, tap, tap on them, you have the Tool to remove the Limiting Beliefs and start your Desires Flowing.

So, just imagine if you took the time to identify what is not working in your life and examined your belief system around it, then identified the Limiting Beliefs and tapped them off. You would be encouraging your energy to flow and not be blocked by the Limiting Belief. Wow! Freedom! You begin to realize that the thoughts didn't come from the reality of the situation. They were just your mind's way of rationalizing the feeling.

Once you have begun to Practice all that is involved with Living a Life of Joy, you begin to realize that it is here for all of us.

From my Heart... Alex

Alex is an Advanced EFT Practitioner and can show you how to immediately implement Positive Aspects to your life,Re-write your Negative Beliefs, and learn Daily Habits designed to Make a Difference. For more information on what steps to take in being the Deliberate Creator of your life visit her website at www.alexvanwells.com or contact Alex at 403-270-7194 or alextv@shaw.ca.