Where is the Joy? -
By Juey Ann MacLeod -
The Sexual and Relationship Expert
www.joyfulloving.com

Autumn 2011 - August, September, October

Dear Juey Ann,

My husband and I have been discussing the sexual awareness of our 15 year old daughter. We would like to know what you think a girl of this age should know. ~ JD of Camrose, AB ~

Thank you for your question JD – this question is close to my heart. If I had the knowledge I now have when I was 15, my life would be so different. With that in mind, I would get the most and the best information possible for your daughter.

We know information is power. Most of us search for information so we can be informed about our health, our wealth, and our legal rights; to name a few. Information is a key to every decision we make. I think she should know not only the physical anatomy taught in school but the responses her body has to certain stimulation. For example: why her knees go weak when she is kissed. Other things I would like her to know are:

a) all of the sexual anatomy and the energy part they play in arousal
b) the differences between the male and female psyche and energy
c) what thoughts have to do with sexuality
d) how to channel this sexual energy so she can choose whether to express it sexually or in other creative ways

She should have information so she can make the discernment between the natural reactions in her body and love. Often the confusion between how the body is responding naturally and what love really is can lead to a variety of unfortunate circumstances.

As well as providing information to your daughter, keep communicating in an open, honest and comfortable manner. Circumstances and questions will arise that will require more information. I’m sure you would prefer that she came to you for accurate information rather than seeking it from other unknown sources.

Your husband might say,“If we give her all this information won’t that encourage her to be sexually active?” The 15 year old body has surges of hormones racing through it looking for an outlet and no one, not even the most concerned parent, can stop it. So get her the best information and empower her to make the best decisions possible. Her awareness of her own creative/sexual energy and her body will empower her in such a way that she will respect her body and make sure others do, too. Then the both of you will have no reason to be concerned about her sexual expression. We are sexual beings and the greater our awareness of all that is involved allows us to make the best choices possible.

Juey Ann MacLeod is a Life Coach assisting individuals and couples to resolve Sexual and Relationship Issues, Sexual Abuse Patterns and facilitates Personal Growth Steps. JOY Inc. was created 10 years ago along with the first Art of Joy-ful Loving Workshop. The continually increasing variety of JOY Workshops has assisted many people to empower themselves and enhance their relationships. For more information visit Juey Anns practitioner profile or call
888-358-8789.

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